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The suggested daily reading on these pages represent the efforts of many Nar-Anon members who have shared their experience, strength and hope. The purpose of this writing is to carry the message of Nar-Anon recovery to those who suffer the effects of another's addiction. Sometimes the writing happened individually and other times in groups or at an area or regional writing workshop.The contributors are sharing straight from their hearts and in keeping with tradition, remain anonymous.

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Nar-Anon members sharing their experience, strength and hope. This daily reader carries the message of Nar-Anon recovery for those who suffer from the effects of another’s addiction.


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UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR November 21

When I think of unacceptable behavior, the first thing that comes to mind is the actions of the addict. I believed the addict’s behavior caused chaos and made my life unmanageable. It was easy for me to blame someone else for my unhappiness. The bills were not paid on time because the money was used for bail and the lawyer. I could not buy clothes for myself because I paid the traffic tickets, the pawnshop, and even the drug dealers.

After attending Nar-Anon meetings, reading the literature, and working the steps with my sponsor, I realized that I also had unacceptable behavior. I am the one who chose to pay the bail, the lawyer and the drug dealer. I chose not to buy myself clothes so money was available to ease the addict’s consequences from active using. I made choices that were unacceptable for me. It was easier for me to blame the addict. Blaming the addict was easier than taking responsibility for my own behavior. Blaming the addict was easier than recognizing that my behavior and actions were causing me to be unhappy.

In Nar-Anon, I learned to look at myself and be responsible for my behavior. I have choices and can choose my behavior (just as the addict does) that will make me happy. I can choose chaos or serenity. Unacceptable behavior is in the eyes of the beholder. My behavior and happiness are my responsibility.

Thought for Today: When I am pointing my finger and blaming someone else for my unhappiness, I need to look and see that my fingers are pointing back at me.

“I have a clear choice between life and death, between reality and fantasy, between health and sickness. I have to become responsible – responsible for mistakes as well as accomplishments.” ~ Eileen Mayhew



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